As I was working in Real Estate Firm, I was quite happy with the success that I was achieving along my way. I was at the peak of my career when I found out that I’m going to have a baby. Without a single though I gave up my career as it was more demanding and I couldn’t have given my 100% to it. I was working as an Assistant Manager Sales who was the top performer of the firm. Somewhere I felt I’m loosing myself in this promotion of life. As a working professional, I have never been dependent on anyone, but just the thought of it was driving me crazy. I had no other option, than to leave my job and be a Full time mom.
When I began my journey as a full time Mom, it was more of an emotional deal for me than a physical one. I had to leave my job, I have a beautiful creature who fully is dependent on me, I have to manage the house as well, these were the few things constantly running my mind. But my body needed rest and my baby needed me so I couldn’t make the decision of joining back to work. Many Moms will relate to me when I say that I had my set of reasons to not start my career again after the 6th month of the delivery. Many Moms gathers the courage and joins back to their respective field, and trust me hats off to them. They are supermoms. A Women only can understand the pain of not being around their kids.
There were many challenges of being a full time mom as well.
- The myth: Just staying home – This is one of the biggest misconception, that what does a full time mom do, they just have to sit at home. To debate, I would like to say that this is the hardest Job as you need to multitask, have patience and also have emotional resilience. Full time moms have a lot to manage, from home to kids ( emotional, physical, well being) from being the teacher to the cook and so on.
- The Mental Load– A full time Mom’s mind is constantly working. there is so much to look after, for instant, planning meals, doctors appointment, new ideas to engage the child, managing the household, etc. This small effort leads to smooth running family.
- Loss of Personal Identity– Many Moms struggle with loosing their identity as their constant focus is on the family which leads to forgetting personal hobbies, aspirations or even the smallest of all , which is self care and self love.
- Financial Dependence– For Moms like me, who had built their career and wasn’t financially dependent on anyone will find it very difficult to be dependent on the spouse. this can feel limiting. but Many moms also find ways to help their spouses by freelancing, starting home based business etc.
Like challenges, there are moments of Joys also, which is in the bucket of a Full time Mom
- Being Present for Every Milestone From babies first steps to their first day of school, everything is witnessed by a full time Mom. These memories are precious and an unbreakable bond is being created.
- Strong Family Foundation You have an opportunities of giving values, discipline and a strong emotional foundation in your child. Being available for your kids helps creating a secure and nurturing environment for your kid.
- Flexibility and Control Over Your schedule You can plan your work schedule, vacations, spent quality family time without constraints of office deadline.
- Personal Growth– Motherhood in many ways teaches patience, resilience and problem solving and even makes you creative. From managing Tantrums to teaching them in new ways, it constantly pushes Moms to grow in many ways.
After the career Break of almost 2 years, I thought of joining back to the firm, but my mind didn’t allow me completely for it as I wouldn’t be able to give time to my kid. So back in my mind, I though of changing my career path into Digital Marketing. I heard about Upgrad, from one of my Friend, that Upgrad is providing exceptional course related to Digital Marketing, in association with MICA. So, without giving it a thought, I joined the course and started learning from the best in the industry. Now, slowly and gradually I’m gaining back my confidence to do the best in this Industry. Lets see what future has to offer me.